this is from my friend Jessica Pounds -
"I don't mind awareness posts and articles about
a lot of things. But I think sometimes things
are blown out of proportion. Some women like to
share how they've been "victimized", and there
are many cases where it actually is true. I know
some. I think sometimes though, it's taken too
far and small things that aren't actually
supposed to be grouped with actual victimization
are grouped in anyway.
But, as someone that has problems with both
genders sometimes, the people who want to expand
the definitions into areas that really don't fit
forget what it's like on the other side. I've
seen and known just as many (or more) guys hurt
or victimized by women, but because they're a
guy, their opinion isn't heard or it's
"irrelevant". "Guys don't talk about their
feelings." Guys can be at fault in many things,
but women have their own ways. I have seen
several examples of female "I'm right, you're
wrong" attitudes that continue regardless of
what the man says.
If that attitude continues into the area of
equality or rights, at this rate, eventually
female rights will try to take over male rights.
If you really want equality, both sides need to
realize they are equally hurt. Sure, guys can be
jerks. But so can women. What the guys do just
gets more publicity. Why? You hear about every
kind of abuse that men can do to women, but when
a woman is emotionally or mentally abusing a
man, the man just needs to suck it up, according
to the women. How many times do you hear a woman
tell another that she needs to shut up because
her man is right? Not often. So many men have
been hurt emotionally by careless or uncaring
girls, but what's done for them? Nothing. What's
done for the women? Anything that can be pulled
out of people with the right spokespeople.
I'm sorry women, but yes, I understand a lot of
you may have been hurt. But don't take things
too far and overthink it. Generally men don't
read into things as deeply as you do, so if they
see an argument that you took into irrelevant
areas, they should be upset. And, don't forget
about the men out there who try to do everything
and get heartbreak and emotional scars in
return. I'm guilty of causing a few scars
myself, and I'm not proud of it. I've been a
victim of some things from both genders, and
some left scars I didn't really even realize
were there. However, I focus on letting go of
those things, not making either gender into
something horrible and blowing things out of
proportion.
(And please don't say that persistence on the
guys' part is rape even when there's nothing
physical or abusive about it. Some guys have to
be persistent to even have a chance with a girl,
but of course in movies, the guys are normally
cute or sexy or whatever. Girls have known how
annoying it can be when a guy isn't interested
in them. They may think no one looks at them,
when the ones who do, they won't even consider.
So in order to even have a chance, if the guy is
ABLE to muster enough confidence, he's probably
going to need a lot of persistence to get
anywhere at all, sometimes even to get just
friendship.)
I may not be very girly most of the time, but
I'm still female. I actually probably align more
with guys' thinking, because I really don't
understand girls. What I DO understand, though,
is that equality doesn't just involve the good
things. It also includes realizing that both
genders have made mistakes, and that you can't
blame the whole gender for some things, though
it is VERY tempting, especially when many of one
gender tend to do one thing. What about the
women who are stubbornly right and won't accept
the man's point of view? It happens in TV and
movies and it happens in real life too. Who will
you blame?
Women, I understand some of you are actual
victims. But some noisy ones just take it too
far, and so many times I've seen just as many
guys hurt by women. If those guys aren't able to
speak up, then I will speak up for them, because
sometimes it takes a woman to say these things.
Why? The same reason they're hurt. The women
that hurt them wouldn't listen. (Sorry to the
one friend who I saw the article in question
from, but honestly, I think the article is
overblown. I was actually more in agreeance with
the comments I saw on the article page, because
several people were thinking of both sides.)"